What is mindset change and how to you get there
We are all familiar with the great Aristotle’s quote “We are what we repeatedly do”. Considering that our thinking patterns are what we repeatedly do, can our success or failure be measured by these thoughts? How about when one thing goes bad we automatically wait with baited breath for numbers two and three because bad luck ultimately comes in threes. What about the glass that is either half full or half empty?
Our minds are wired to expect the worst in most scenarios. It may not feel that way but trust me it is just that. Negative thinking patterns are committed to memory like a strained muscle that pains every so often. We are what we constantly remind ourselves of. We are also the ones holding ourselves back.
But what if I told you that negative thinking patterns can be changed and this is achievable through a mindset change?
But what is a mindset change and how do you get there?
I am the proud aunt of twin nephews who call me mommy. (Somehow I think they think it’s my name.) They are at that impressionable age where they are curious and learn plenty on a daily basis. More often than not they get up to mischief and climb up and jump down objects. The words they hear most are “No” “Don’t” and “You can’t”. So it’s no wonder that “Help me” and “I can’t” are words they often utter.
What I have noticed the past few weeks was that they will say “Help me” or “I can’t” when they really don’t need help or when they can actually do something unaided but are simply too lazy or out of habit. The “I can’t” habit. Not a habit they have just picked up like a discarded toy. No. This is from hearing to negative words.
This got me thinking to mind sets in general. How often I have told myself that a task is impossible in the past. When I have wanted to ask for help before even attempting to do something myself. How often I still do.
Years ago I attended a Robin Banks seminar. One of the most simple yet profound techniques I learnt that evening was how to get yourself out of the tired funk. You know, those days when the struggle to keep your eyes open is so real that you can nod off any second. When you look worse for wear and everyone tells you how tired you look. Well, on those days instead of telling yourself how tired you are, change your thoughts and words to “I’m recharging”. And keep telling yourself that. It seemed insane that evening but I can tell you that it does work. I’ve done it countless times over the years.
In a nutshell, a mindset change is changing the way you think.
You choose your reality. You choose if you want to accept who you are, what you are and where you are at any given time.
It takes work. Hard and consistent work. The work being changing the negatives into positives. Lots of self talk is the key. It’s easier to cling to negative thinking than to change our thinking patterns. Because who wants to put the effort into thinking. Thoughts come and go and many times we are not consciously aware of the thoughts that form in our minds. It takes some doing to filter our thoughts.
So we know what mindsets are and how we tend to stuck in that ruts. But how do we change from negative to positive when it requires work? And how do we train our minds?
Here are some ideas to get you started:
1. Identify your negatives and bash them. One positive affirmation to help you is “I will face whatever comes my way with a positive attitude.”
2. Substitute words and phrases like “I can’t” to “What if”.
3. Create a list of positive affirmations and say it to yourself daily.
4. Ignore that little voice inside that tells you that you’re not good enough. YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH.
5. Place positive visuals any and everywhere. It can be a quote in a frame, hand written notes strategically placed around your home or office, notes written on your fridge or whatever. Get creative. This will constantly remind you of your end game.
6. Don’t be too hard on yourself. If something doesn’t go according to plan, it’s ok. Really it is. Learn to let go sometimes.
7. Celebrate the small victories. There will always be self doubt and negatives finding ways to creep in to your life. The trick is to focus all your attention on the good and no better way than to celebrate it.
8. REMEBER ROME WASN’T BUILT IN A DAY. BABY STEPS. You are a work in progress so don’t fret the little things. You are stronger and wiser than you were the day before.
9. Always remember that excellence isn’t an act. It’s a habit.
PS. This last image is one of my sister who is a source of strength, courage, determination and boundless inspiration. Definitely No Ordinary Woman. A woman who made a mindset change and dared to fly.
What are your ways of training your minds?
The example of my nephews and their reaction to negative words is used as an example of thought patterns. Their behaviour is not due to bad parenting or care giving. With children, we tell them NO for their safety and wellbeing. Kids being kids, will manipulate you and before you know you start enabling them when they are too lazy to do something. More about kids behaviour will be posted in a parenting post soon.